The Main Thing
I was watching this show and someone was talking to this girl about her “boyfriend” type character, who wasn’t her “boyfriend” at all because she didn’t know anything about him because all they do is have sex, they never talk. And so she was sad because she didn’t know anything about him and this guy, Adam, his friend tells the girl, Hannah, “Oh, yeah do you know him through AA? He’s an alcoholic. That’s like the main thing about him, besides that he loves books.”
And yeah, there was a lot going on in that scene, whatever, but all I could think about is that phrase, “the main thing about him.” Like that defining quality that everyone associated him with, the first thing a person thinks of when they hear his name.
And it made me wonder what mine was.
And what I wanted mine to be.
And who I want me to be.
And who I am.
So I’ve come to the conclusion that I just want to be a good person living a good life. And I want to be a better person.
And it occured to me that there are two parts of being a better person:
One is thinking about other people.
And the other is not caring at all what other people think.